I made some big decisions this week, which I’m sure will be a relief to all the readers as I am well aware everyone is quite exhausted with my seemingly endless existential crisis.
Before I get to the fun stuff, however, like a pros and cons list of each new city I would like to move to, I want to air something out.
I think we can all agree there is a prolific yet consistently ill-informed generalization that millennials in the workforce are somehow lesser than our older, more dedicated and hardworking colleagues. Now, I don’t believe this stereotype was born entirely out of falsehoods, there are certainly some truths at the crux of the argument, however time and time again studies, authors, and 25-year-old CEOs will prove that millennials aren’t worse at working, we just work differently. I mean, for god sake the world is pretty different these days, so that would make sense.
I know I can’t speak for the entire generation, and there will always be the ones that slack off and cheat the system, but enough with the assumptions. Of course, it absolutely boils my blood when I see a fellow millennial walk into the office with their entitlement showing. I know it’s out there, don’t get me wrong, I just take issue with the rampant generalization and stigmatization of my entire generation.
The worst part of all of this? I think I’m about to be the exact stereotype I despise. After only two years, I am leaving my job.
Right now, I’m in my dream job, or at least I’m in the job I thought was my dream. I worked hard in school, did the unpaid internships plus a waitressing job, networked until my smile hurt, and finally, after 6 months of being an assistant, got the job I always imagined. Now, here I am, in a fancy office with a fancy business card, and after two years, I’m ready to move on.
Isn’t that what they say about us? That we’re career jumpers? That we don’t stay put?
I had to have a long conversation with myself. The hardest thing to discern was if I was unhappy in the industry, or unhappy in this particular position. I am constantly reminded how hard I have worked to get here, couldn’t I be happy or more stimulated if I was just patient and waited to be promoted, or transition to another position?
The answer, which was very hard to admit, is no.
It is not because I don’t want to grind or because I think that another job will be far more glamorous, as I am a firm believer that your first job will never be your “dream job”. That’s just not how it works. I didn’t come into this role thinking it would be all roses, and frankly, the work is actually much more stimulating than I anticipated.
It is because I look at my boss, and his boss, and the c-suite down the hall, and I think to myself; Well, I don’t want their lives either.
I don’t want to do the work they do, I don’t want to spend my career in the industry they’re in, and I don’t think I’d be any more stimulated if I was in their position. And just like that, my question was finally answered.
When it comes down to it, I had to ask myself not if this is where I want to be in 10 years, but if I want to be where my boss’s boss is in 10 years.
If I look at what my mentors do every day, ignoring the glamour and money that comes along with the industry, is that something that I want to strive for?
And do you know what happened? A little voice, deep in my gut screamed; “Motherfucking hell no!”
So there we have it.
Now that I have smashed down the seemingly impenetrable blockade that was standing in between me and a new chapter, it’s like I can breathe again. Yesterday I was doing the thing where I was walking down the street listening to music and I just started to smile for no reason. It’s the giddy feeling that comes with opportunity and adventure, and while I know it won’t last forever, I’m going to ride the wave until reality hits once again.
6 months. 6 months is how long I have to plan my move. I have devised a short list of cities I think I’d like to live, and plan to start the job hunt once I narrow it down. My pros and cons list is below.
Pros: I went to college in D.C. and I have a solid friend group in the city, including my best friend. That being said, it is probably really good for both our careers and livers that we live across the country from each other.
I have professional connections in D.C., albeit they’re connections from my current career, something I am trying to transition out of.
Cons: I know the city already so it will be incredibly easy and comfortable to go back. It will be exciting at first, the familiarity of it all, but I could quickly fall back into my old college lifestyle which will absolutely not help in my quest to try something new.
Pros: Honestly, I’m not really sure, I’ve just heard everyone say that it’s amazing and that they have really good beer. Plus, it rains so much I won’t feel bad about not working out every single day like I do in LA.
Cons: I know literally nobody in Seattle and I do not fit into the traditional Seattle aesthetic so it may be difficult to find a squad?
Pros: I know SO many people in San Francisco! It is beautiful, the tech industry is a-boomin’, and there is a shit ton to do.
Cons: It’s still pretty ~west coast~ and I think I’m looking for a bit of a cultural shift. Also, OH MY GOD it’s so expensive!
Pros: The people. There’s something about the fucking people from Chicago that just make me all stoked to be alive.
Cons: Cold. Also, it’s another place I have very few connections both socially and professionally, I’d really be starting over.
Pros: I can say I did New York. Plus, there’s probably no better city to continue a rapid-fire dating conquest, considering its sheer volume.
Cons: I really don’t want to live in New York. I am not poised to inherit a trust find any time in the near future so I’d probably have to live in a youth hostel or homeless shelter.
Pros: I have family littered throughout Austin, so they’d be a solid support system. I have visited many times and enjoy both the lifestyle and proximity to my grandmother.
Cons: Isn’t everyone moving to Austin?
As you can see, this list is a work in progress. Of course, my decision will be swayed heavily by where I find a job, but, considering I moved my life across the country back to LA for a career that I’m now leaving, I have decided to determine where I want to live and then target my job search to that area. Is that insane thing to do?
Anyways, please send thoughts and prayers. I can’t wait until my mom finds out I’m moving by reading about it on her PGP app.
Also, I have no fucking idea what my LinkedIn password is..