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Welcome to the PGP Mailbag, wherein I will answer questions from you, our readers. Send your questions to dillon@grandex.co.
Hey Dillon, big fan of the mailbag. I was just wondering what your thoughts are on Dallas are for a young professional. Nightlife, dating scene, ect. Thanks!
I’ve never been into the Dallas vibe. The young professionals there are a little too self-important and uppity for my taste. Dallas is the epicenter for the terms “thirty thousand dollar millionaire” or “credit card millionaire.” It basically means they’re all too concerned with upholding a certain lifestyle or status even if they have to live well beyond their means.
The nightlife is decent in parts, though. I can’t speak to the dating scene.
Hey Dillon, big fan of the podcasts. I was going through some old Backdoor Cover episodes and I heard that you transferred from Texas State after 3 years. I am considering doing something similar and I was wondering how the process went for you. I really think I need a change of scenery but it would mean leaving behind my pledge brothers and getting acclimated to a new school. Thanks in advance for any response you give.
I did it for academic purposes, but, to be fair, I was over the fraternity scene by my junior year. I had a ton of great friends I was leaving behind but I could miss the remainder of the fraternity events and parties and tailgates and meetings and pledge lineups and never look back.
Having said that, transferring colleges sucks. I started at St. Edward’s with the sole purpose of finishing school as quickly as possible so I’d never have to set foot in a classroom again. I got a degree I’m proud of from a good school and that’s all I ever wanted out of St. Ed’s. The social scene there looked like trash from the little I paid attention to it. It felt like a 13th grade vibe, like everyone there was still in high school and never wanted to leave. It sucked. Again, though, I never tried to make a single friend there and I was pretty successful at it.
I’m not sure if that’s helpful or not.
Who is your favorite Seinfeld character and why? Mine is George
Appreciate you standing up for Seinfeld, especially vs a middle tier sitcom like Frasier. Would love to hear you and Dave do the full debate on Touching Base. Should be an easy win for you.
George Costanza is not only my favorite Seinfeld character; I think he’s the greatest sitcom character we’ve ever seen. I just went to YouTube to pull a good example of Costanza at his best but I couldn’t settle on one to share here.
Frasier is trash. Gun to his head, deFries might even agree.
What’s poppin slime?
Been getting into the Ranch Water life after seeing you mention it several times lately. Never ordered it at a bar, so I haven’t seen the de facto recipe. What’s the best way?
I’ve never actually made one myself but it’s just tequila, mineral water (Topo Chico), and lime. Salted rim. I don’t think the ratio of tequila to mineral water matters much since the restaurant in Austin that serves it as their signature drink gives you a bottle of Topo Chico that you use to continuously dilute the tequila as you drink it down.
They’re so good.
Dillon,
I am just getting out of a six month relationship with a girl because she found out I slept with someone else during the “what are we” phase.
Not excusing it, but long story short, we struggled to define the relationship and I felt like she was being flakey. I was out one night not looking for trouble, but things happen. And it did.
This brings me to my question: are there rules for this phase? As adults in their mid-20s, does there need to be an establishment of “yes we are officially a couple”?
This is a tough one, but I think the general rule is if it feels like what you’re doing is wrong, then it probably is. Will sleeping with another person upset the girl you’re kind of dating? Yeah, it will, even if no official rules have been established. In a court of law, you’re being acquitted because you did nothing technically wrong. A girl’s brain is no court of law, though. In her mind, you’re doing life in the clink.
Having a discussion about the terms of a relationship is always good once the time is right, but that doesn’t mean you’re free to do whatever it is you want until it happens. Depending on the nature of the “relationship,” of course.
Hey Dillon,
I’m few years into post-college “adult” dating, and I’ve found it more and more challenging to think of the right 2nd and 3rd date ideas. A few years back, I’d pull the drinks move two or three times in a row, no wonder why I’m still single…but like most, I kill it with the “lets meet up for a few drinks” date. I feel like as the women I date get older, they’re more serious and the date solely over drinks can’t be a consecutive thing. I had a great first date last week (over drinks) and need to follow up soon. I don’t want to do dinner as sometimes it seems too serious and forced with someone I barely know and have no idea where it’s heading. Dinner’s always a toss-up on the fun scale as well. Doing an activity together is a nice idea, but they’re hard to think of and I’d prefer to have a slight buzz. What are some of your go-to date ideas post first date?
I go drinks for one or two dates and then it’s dinner and drinks after that. That’s as creative as I get, to be honest. Dinner can be awkward because you’re facing each other and the conversation can feel forced at times, but it’s something you have to do. Everybody likes to eat.
Top Golf is a great date spot because they have food, a bar, and you’re doing a fun activity that will keep the convo naturally flowing. A dine-in movie theater is a good one, too.
Also maybe I’m not the best at planning dates..
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For the third date, invite her over to your place and cook dinner. This, of course, assumes that you can cook and your place is presentable for a lady. Doing this puts you at a home field advantage since you’re literally at home and your bed is right there, should there be some hanky panky (and there should be, the third date stereotype is there for a reason).
This has worked on me. Make sure you can invite her over “early” so you can show off by chopping things and prove you didn’t get takeout and toss the boxes.
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On that same thread a picnic or other outside eating (not restaurant) eating scenario is great. Warm weather, couple bottles of wine, bang boom
I was about to suggest this. I agree. It’s a great idea. Maybe make a few fancy cocktails or something too, like mai tais or daiquiris. Saves money on food and drinks.
Minor league baseball games (location permitting). Insanely cheap, ton of fun, gives you excuses for conversation or no conversation
A good date spot I found is going to a bar arcade. You can drink but you’re also doing something that is fun
Just pulled this one over the weekend for the first time. 10/10 agree.
Highly recommend
I second this highly recommendation.
100% yes
I’ve found that bowling works well for the third date range. Booze flows, almost every place has food or appetizers, and nobody is good at it
Can confirm. Just did this a week or two ago and it was a fun way to get flirty competition and turned into more drinks after.
I take guys on bowling dates, as our alley has an air hockey table. Always make a bet that whoever loses out of 5 buys the next round. (I kick ass at air hockey, the gentleman is always impressed)
Went on one having not bowled in since I was about 9. Won by about 180 points with a 240. No mercy.
George Costanza is easily the best sitcom character of all time. All four of the gang are so great, you could argue for all of them to be included in a top-10 sitcom characters list. That’s why Seinfeld is the greatest comedy ever written.
Dallas is the worst city in Texas. Unless you’re into stuck up Instagram models and guys that think hashtagging their post of their new Jos A Banks shirt with #elite is cool.
Jos a bank shirt? Lol nerds. Men’s warehouse or gtfo
Brooks Brothers, peasants
Tailor
You two must be hella poor. Gross.
Is this PGP or TFM?
You are just saying that because you are from Houston. It is well documented that Dallasites and Houstonians hate each other and think the other city is a literal garbage dump post apocalyptic waste land filled with the worst humanity has to offer. Both are guilty of their own crimes.
Na I just wanted to fuck with those two. I live in Hong Kong
Dillon’s description of Dallas is pretty spot on. Lived there for a year and didn’t really care for it, so I moved to Houston. If you want all the amenities of Dallas but the laid back feel of Fort Worth, try Houston.
I’ve been here my entire life and never heard such a perfect description of Houston. *thumbs up emoji*
Agreed!! I’ve been in Houston for a few years now and I have zero idea why anyone would say they like Dallas better. Houston has everything that Dallas has without all the bullshit.
Is Houston unbearably humid? Or can people acclimate to it? My gf and I just finished law school in California and are working for mega-firms that have small branches in Houston. It just sounds so much better culturally and our income would effectively double after adjusting for taxes & cost-of-living. My only hangup us the humidity, I don’t know if you could pay me enough to walk around doused in sweat constantly.
People don’t walk here. Problem solved.
I notice it on really bad days, but it’s something you can adjust to I think. Although maybe not from perfect California weather haha
I’ve really been meaning to try out the brunch date. Can anyone speak on this?
Brunch dates can be a relaxing way to parlay into an afternoon…nap. Or can be a fantastic way to see how your date handles a long boozy brunch (i.e. What are they like when they’re drunk).
Batting 1.000 on the brunch date. It’s daytime so there is no pressure that something needs to happen afterwards. Mimosas and sugary brunch food have the good vibes flowing with the alcohol and sugar high. And if you like each other you have all day to continue the date.
Sup?
Read the room, man.
My buddy and I did a double date type deal with a girl a was talking to and her friend on a Sunday brunch once. Worked well for both of us.
congrats on the afternoon sex
Nice
Got one planned for this Sunday. Will report back with the results.
Good luck homie
How’d it go?
I’ve been on one brunch date. She didn’t drink and I did. Predictably, there was no second date.
100% agree on the Topgolf date. Fantastic idea if you’ve got one in the area
I’ve lived in Dallas for about 3 years. While Dillon’s description is definitely accurate in some areas, Dallas has a ton to offer with a lot of spots to go to. The 30k millionaire is everywhere no matter which major city you’re in.
I bet before you typed this comment you were like, “THIS IS IT. MY TIME TO SHINE.”
I second that. I’ve been living in Dallas for a little over 3 years too, and while there are definitely some areas I steer clear of (anywhere SMU students hang out), there are a lot of cool, laid back areas too. Deep Ellum, Lower Greenville and parts of Henderson (not the Knox side) have an older/more chill vibe than the typical 22-year-old Uptown scene. If you like a little things a little more lowkey, but you’re not quite ready for the ‘burbs, Addison or Lakewood could be a good bet. Trinity Groves seems to be up and coming too, but not douchey (yet). And I can’t speak for others, but zero complaints from me on the dating scene. Just be ready to start swiping, if you aren’t already.
Just moved to Dallas in August. Everyone I’ve met loves it…Meh…I obviously need someone to show me the good. Ahem @dallasblonde
Dallas is great. A ton to do, and as my esteemed colleague noted, a huge variety if you’re willing to leave Uptown. Also, a ton of good looking people.