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Was hoping for an unbiased opinion on how old is too old to still be cruising around on a long board from time to time. I’m well aware of the stigma of people riding boards around the city but generally don’t care and didn’t think it mattered until recently.
I had been going out with this girl for about 2 months, everything going great and then last weekend when we get back to my apartment she sees my long board sitting in the corner since I’d taken it for a cruise earlier in the day. She proceeds to go off about how lame it is, tell me that its an activity for deadbeats and that she’d be humiliated if any of her friends ever saw me on it. At first I thought she was fucking with me but turns out she wasn’t and that’ll be the last time I see her. Regardless of the activity not going to be with anyone who dictates what I can do like that.
My question is, is she right? I’m 4 years out of school and think I’m doing pretty damn well by societal standards. I work in IB, live in a high-end building and am a corporate slave 90-100 hours a week. Its not like I’m riding it all over the city every day, I take it out for a cruise once every few weeks and is a great way to decompress a bit. Again I understand the stereotypes of the people who are riding boards around the city but I don’t fit any of them and its something I enjoy so is it really that bad of a look?
You’re talking to the number one Bird influencer in America, so how could I possibly tell you to ditch the longboard while I, a grown ass adult, am scootering my life away through the streets of Austin? I can’t. You’re pretty young, too. It’s not like you’re longboarding to your kid’s tee ball game. And even that could be pulled off.
Here’s the truth: If you own it with confidence, you can get away with anything that society would otherwise deem “lame.” Some confident swagger with a tinge of self-depreciation atop a longboard is just a dude boarding to the coffee shop. It’s fine.
You’re better off without that chick anyway.
LTFT. Got a quick one for you or the commenters. I’m trying to be a gym-before-work boi but I struggle HARD actually getting out of bed in the morning to actually make it to the gym. Any recommendations on how to actually get into the routine?
I was in your shoes several years ago. I struggled putting two feet to the floor after waking up and the idea of physical exertion before 7:00 a.m. was laughable.
Pre-workout was the answer for me. Pre-workout boosts your energy, among other things. It makes me actually want to be active. The stuff works. Getting out of bed won’t get any easier until you force yourself to do it over and over again, but becoming active once you do get out of bed will. Repetition creates habit. Get after it.
What do you think about seeing someone who doesn’t believe in monogamy? I’ve been dating this guy for a month and a half and this morning he told me he doesn’t believe in the being with just one person. He said he realized after his last relationship of 3 years, that the construct of society for people needing to be in relationships and get married is ridiculous… I have feelings for him and he’s told me he likes me, but I kind of thought a relationship would be nice. Should I move on or just roll along with this?
Thanks for the help!
If you want to be in a monogamous relationship, you obviously have to move on. No question about it.
Does “just roll along with this” mean you’d have to be accepting of him dating other people while dating you? Eventually breaking up with you to move on to the next one? Introducing someone else to the relationship? Are you willing to accept any of these outcomes?
Long time first time. I’m a huge fan of your column and this week I need some help.
My last relationship ended in December and I’m ready to start getting back in the dating game. The problem is that I have alopecia areata and have recently lost a lot of my hair. My hair is growing back in but I’m currently rocking this buzzed head (a la Cara Delevingne) with a few random bald spots for the time being.
My question is how should I approach my profile in dating apps while I look like this? I don’t want to deceive anyone by posting only pictures of me with hair but I also know that a lot of initial connection is driven by looks. I would love your take on how to approach this. Thank you for the help.
Note: The emailer is a lady, which matters to some degree.
I think a mix of pre and post-hair loss pictures with a witty allusion to your condition in your bio is the move here. Give them a glimpse of how you’ll look once your hair fills back in while being upfront about how it looks currently.
In your bio, maybe make a joke about it to show that you’re self-aware and confident, but it is also a chance to explain why your hair looks the way it does. Show some personality here. Good luck out there.
I’m currently living with 2 guys I went to college with. One of the 2 i would consider my best friend. The other is someone I’ve always been “friendly” with simply from hanging out with mutual people but we’ve never really seen eye to eye.
Mostly because I feel he’s a dirty cheapass who brings nothing to the table
Our lease is up soon and me and my good buddy are looking into places without him. I don’t think he even slightly suspects this move that will essentially fuck him.
Am I just being an asshole for this? What’s the best way to “break up” with a roommate.
The breakup part of this isn’t going to be an easy conversation and I’m so thankful the often-uncomfortable reality that is having a roommate is something I never have to deal with again. Sheesh.
You will be an asshole if you don’t give this “dirty cheapass” some notice. Explaining that you won’t be living with him anymore is business. It’s not always fun, but stuff like this is absolutely necessary. You have to do it. Give him a month to figure out his next move. Don’t be an asshole.
To whom it may concern,
I have a question for you and the commenters of PGP. I just turned 26 years old last month. I’m not big on talking income/money with my friends, but I can’t find any reliable statistics to answer this question I have and it’s killing me.
I’ll break it down real quick. I’m not saving for a house, a car, or any other large purchase currently. I have about $5,000 in a personal savings account and about double that stashed in my 401K. I don’t have any debt except what I owe on my car. Do other people at age 26 have more than this put away already, or is it about the same? I feel like I have no money at all compared to other people my age.
Should I be worried? Should I be upping how much (currently 25% per paycheck) I’m saving?
Dude, you’re killing it. If you’re actually putting away 25% of your paycheck, I’d imagine that places you squarely in the top 1% of savers for people your age. That’s amazing, so be proud. Hopefully a lot of that is going to your 401k.
Perception is rarely reality regarding how much the people around us are making. Seeing your buddy spending money at the bars, on new clothes, trips, cars, etc. doesn’t mean he’s flush with cash. I’ve lived paycheck to paycheck before while putting off the vibe that I had fun money to blow, and I’m sure others around me were doing the same. It’s doable. Also, debt is very real, and almost everyone around you is carrying some of it..
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