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“Do you have plans for Friday night?” she texts me on a Tuesday.
“Obviously,” I think. “I just don’t know what they are yet.”
In reality, I just avoid answering until I get trapped in person. You see, I know what’s coming. She wants to have a “Girls’ Night.”
Girls’ Night is one of the biggest social clichés. It’s built up to be one of the most anticipated nights of a lady’s week, or month, or life. My point is that it’s made out to be this fabulous night where you and all of your friends get together, fabulously dressed, and you forget about all of your troubles for one evening. There’s food. There’s wine. There’s your BFFs. What more could a girl need?
Here’s the thing. Like almost everything else, girls’ nights are not nearly as “fabulous” as they sound. Not even close. In reality, the nights are over-planned and forced and are really only meant to be for wives, mothers, and girls who never go out. The conversation centers around boyfriends or boy problems, which is ironic since the whole point is to “forget about boys for a night.”
I honestly don’t enjoy them. Don’t get me wrong, I have a plenty of gal pals. This isn’t supposed to be girl-hating. But these friends go out with me on the regular, so we don’t need to plan these big events to see one another.
Girls’ Nights, though, require promising to block out one of my precious weekend nights to get over-dressed, sip on over-priced drinks, and talk about nothing that I’m interested in. And that, frankly, gives me anxiety. (Granted, all of this happens when it’s friends of friends inviting me, and we all know how horrible that is.) More likely than not, I’ll be the drunkest one there, saying something that someone will find offensive in some way, and I, for one, would like to keep my semi-decent reputation intact.
You could counter, “Well, Regina, you could just suck it up and stop being a drunk bitch.” I could, but when the “Girls” are married (or in serious relationships) while single-you and your other single-drunk-bitch-friend are the only other ones there, the roles are clear. We’re so out of place.
Maybe one day, I’ll be responsible, have to schedule social events days in advance, and fit in with the “Girls’ Night” crowd. But I’m just not there yet.
Instead, I’m busy writing this while avoiding another “Girls’ Night” text. .
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@Megsie611
Sup? We can get drunk and “forget about your friends” for a while.
Slider slidin’ in. Respect.
I have a Netflix subscription, some quality whiskey chilling in the freezer and a couch Friday night…sup?
Damn man don’t tempt me with a good time
why are you ruining good whiskey by having it in the freezer?
We don’t have any ice and I can’t drink warm whiskey.
Don’t care, staying in the freezer.
1.) If you can’t afford ice, you can’t afford quality whiskey.
2.) If you can’t drink whiskey neat, you can’t appreciate quality whiskey.
1. Can afford ice, just don’t have it.
2. I’m ok with that.
I thought drinking whiskey neat was just a TV show/movie thing
I can’t tell if your trolling me or not… I will give you the benefit of the doubt… No, it’s not just a TV thing…
Cube-A-Saurus, I also apologize for gettin sassy with you… This is strike number 2 for me. The second time in a week that I’ve received clear cut evidence that I’m getting way too old for this site. Also, I just am really into whiskey…
God that description of Girls Night sounds like something I’d Irish Goodbye after 10 minutes. Can’t it just be a night you happen to be with some of your best lady friend either around a fire pit or at our favorite dive?
that’s exactly my point! it’s the over-planning of the whole thing that makes it such a big deal that makes me turn the other way
You can come hangout with me whenever you want. Just keep up, and don’t be the type that says “I don’t think we should do that”.
The over planning is 100% what makes it so insufferable! Maybe I’m just getting old, but it’s almost on the same level as bridal showers now.
The best nights are always those where you’re drunk before you even know what you’re doing.
So a girls night is different than a group of girl friends going out? I’m confused
It’s not really, at least for my friends. We have “bitches only” nights/days which usually consist of hanging out in someone’s living room where we don’t have to wear bras and can talk about how often we fake orgasms. Alternatively we could have a bitches only night when one or more of the single women wants to get laid and needs available-ish wing women. The way my friend group understands it is that if it’s declared a bitches only situation it means no boyfriends or male friends and don’t invite any weird peripheral friends of any gender.
Calling it a ‘Girls Night’ automatically sets the night up to be a disaster.
I agree with this so much. I constantly get roped into these and honestly it’s like can’t we just hang out? Why is it a production?
Just say no. You won’t get roped into anything you don’t want to do anymore.
I went to visit one of my lady friends in another state when it was her gal pal’s birthday weekend. Little did I know that I was setting myself up to be the only guy in what was supposed to be a series of girl’s nights and of course, birthday girl was upset because she thought her friends were focusing on boys, too much.
coming from a single girl who has “girls nights”- this could not be more accurate.
Say you have to cut back on your spending for awhile. That gets you out of mandatory fun like girls nights out and lets you just get shitty at home.