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Some people become best friends because they live in the same cul-de-sac. Others on the playground in second grade. Some people become best friends after playing on the same travel basketball team all through middle and high school.
No matter how you and your best friend met, one thing is true: you never envision an end to your friendship. You’re going to be best friends forever. You’re going to be groomsmen in each other’s weddings. You’re going road trip to Talladega every year together for as long as you live. You’re going to spend the rest of your life getting into trouble with this person. Best friends are great, but have you ever broken up with your best friend?
A best friend breakup will blindside you like LT on Joe Theismann. There are times in any friendship where you will butt heads, but these differences usually get worked out. A best friend breakup is usually caused by unforeseen circumstances and some outside influences. I don’t want to get too far into my personal experience for the privacy of those involved, but I’ll give a bit. My best friend was facing a certain situation, and I boldly gave my take on the situation. He instead chose someone else’s opinion, and they were so offended by my take that they convinced him to burn a bridge with me.
Oh well, shit happens.
Some people would argue that he was never a true friend in the first place, but I disagree. I think he thought I would understand and didn’t want to damage his other situation. It is what it is, and I can support his decision.
The toughest part is how fast everything disappears. Who am I going to tag in stupid memes and ridiculous TFM videos of guys drinking beer out of things they should not drink beer out of? Who am I going to send Snapchats to all day? I can’t post throwback pictures of us anymore, I can’t tag him in anything from Timehop, and now I have all these pictures in my phone with someone that doesn’t even speak to me anymore.
The road trips stopped, porch drinking halted, and most heartbreaking, we may never shotgun a beer together again. It’s not like a normal breakup where you can go find some random person to fill the gaping hole in your heart that night. It’s not like you can see the other person move on to someone new and convince yourself it’s over. There’s nothing you can really do about it now. Remember the time you lost him after your birthday party and two hours later he busted through y’all’s apartment door wearing a top hat and holding a fire extinguisher? Remember that day you bought a rack of Kirkland Signature Light Beer because you were at Costco and he said “you won’t?” Remember that time you two first discovered Pepe Lopez? Those are all distant memories.
We’ve all been dumped. We’ve all been cheated on. We’ve all seen our ex move on. However, nothing hurts worse than losing your best friend. .
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Right in the feels. Just lost my best friend as well but I also got to have sex with her every night and stuff so it’s like a double whammy. Now I’m just lost in a shit abyss and contemplating moving to Austin and walking into Grandex and demanding a full time position as Commenter Commissioner. Madison, I know you’re reading this shit.
Congrats on the sex and future job with Grandex.
Lmao
Too real for a Tuesday, losing best friends blows. Haven’t had a friendship blow up, but at least that can leave a shot at redemption – don’t drive drunk y’all, it hurts more than the folks in the cars.
Been there dude, family member for me
I completely agree. I had a best friend break up because a friend of mine since middle school started making some pretty fucked up life choices. I spoke up out of concern and genuinely wanting the best for her and she took it completely the wrong way. I think I actually made sense to her because she got her life together a bit, and if her being in a better place means she has to hate me then I’m fine with it. It still sucks because I know speaking up was the right thing to do but I really miss her sometimes. I hope she is happy these days.
Went through a similar situation that I talked about extensively in the PGP reddit…one of my best friends is currently dating a sociopath who is currently lying about have stage 4 cancer. I found out she was lying, attempted to warn him and now our friendship is fucked. This happen last February and we still haven’t reconciled about it (he’s still with the girl). Even worse, we co-commish a fantasy football league so that was awk as fuck.
The amount of people I know/know of who lie about cancer absolutely blows my mind, especially as a healthcare worker. I don’t know where those people get off.
With my right hand usually
Speaking of speaking up….
Sup?
Had a best friend breakup over a girlfriend who was a horrible influence and convinced him I was a POS – tried turning his family against me too. I didn’t burn any bridges, just sucked it up and went on with things. A year later, he catches on to her shit and dumps her. Didn’t take him a week to call me and apologize. Fast forward a year and now I’m going to be his best man.
Hoping for that result
Fingers crossed
I’m gonna cherish future shotguns a lot more now. This was heavy.
Man this hit home. I had a best friend breakup a few years back, ultimately had to decide that the friendship was becoming more stressful than it was worth. Extremely difficult so I feel your pain.
It’s not always beyond redemption best friend/roommate and I blew up because of roommate differences. Heard he got engaged and I reached out to congratulate him. Now I’m in the wedding. Not what it once was, but healing can happen.
I’m thinking about not going to my 10 year reunion because of a best friend breakup that didn’t end well. I was pretty well liked in high school, but I’d sometimes be guilty by association since my friend was a huge dick toward everyone. It wasn’t until college I realized he’d treated me like a sidekick follower with not much respect- something that didn’t gel anymore after holding leadership positions in my fraternity and seeing my friends treat me with respect and that no, I wasn’t a follower. There was a lot of other stuff in between, but the final straw was him making the replacement me (someone he’d met in college) his best man (he cheated on his fiancée regularly, and she was a pretty hateful bitch herself). We’d been best friends for 8 years at that point, so that didn’t sit well. At that point I told him I wasn’t going to be in his wedding and cut ties completely. It wasn’t pretty, and sometimes I think maybe I should’ve done it differently (especially with the 10 year reunion in a year) but it’s been great not having that toxic friendship.
Life hands you enough challenges, there’s no need to keep toxic people around. The key to being happy is definitely surrounding yourself with people who bring out your best side.
Had a best friend breakup myself. Best friend was a girl and I’ll let you guess what lead to the breakup. Didn’t speak to each other for close to 2 years, but about a year ago I did something very out of character for me by swallowing my pride and we reconnected. Its actually like that period of time where we weren’t friends never happened, so there’s always hope if you want them back in your life.
Hopefully this wasn’t over a female Delph
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