As a girl, I enjoy introducing myself as Brandon to people I don’t want to be talking to. The struggle with “is she kidding? If I laugh, I risk offending her. If I don’t laugh, I risk looking like a fool” …always fun.
For the past 4 years I’ve taken the Amtrak monthly from Chicago – Central IL. Stories range from my male seatmate (visual: college janitor, long blonde hair, red leather jacket) asking me out to a fast food mexican joint 20 min before our destination, getting drunk on miller lites on a Saturday morning because the 50 year old doctor next to me didn’t want to drink alone (leading to a very confused mother picking up her shamefully drunk daughter at the train station), and being given foreign candy to a soon to be stalker that followed me to my ride through the streets of Chicago. That is just a taste. Amtrak is an adventure in a class of its own.
Big Divvy guy here. Can confirm, the endorphins coupled with a commute time cut in half is enough to have me looking forward to hitting the road to work each day.
Coming from someone who spent years digging herself out of the same feeling, I empathize. My personality is happy/goofy by nature, so it totally masked the insecurities that had complete control of my mind. It wasn’t until I finally started talking to friends/family about it that I made any real steps toward long term improvement. I have so much respect for you for seeking therapy. Just don’t forget to make a concerted effort each day to do something that makes you happy (though it looks like you are doing that already). You WILL come out of this with a confidence you didn’t know you could have.
Took me a long four years in this city to lock down a “friend with a boat.” Tomorrow friends… you can find me on a lobster raft in Chicago’s Play Pen from approximately 9am-7pm.
You just summarized my week last week. Two days of crying/no appetite followed by two days of going for “runs” that turned into “how much can I make this hurt so I don’t feel emotion” …needless to say, I should have entered my ass in a race because I was out there averaging 6:10 miles for a 5k like a real psycho. Lost 3 pounds in the process so in hindsight, had a great break up week!
promised my boyfriend in college that we would do it on the 50 yard line at some point. Then we broke up and a couple weeks later decided we needed to at least keep that promise… so we did it
This is way too real to me right now. After 5 months, I had to initiate a break up with a guy I’m crazy about because he’s afraid to commit. It feels horrible right now, but I know in my gut we should never settle for someone who isn’t all in for us.
Commenced our Austin bachelorette weekend by drunkenly cherry bombing a tarantula that got into our airbnb (we stayed in west lake hills). Can you imagine a more chaotic seen than a tarantula crashing a bachelorette party…
Kicked off Austin bachelorette weekend by drunkenly cherry bombing a tarantula that got into our airbnb (we stayed in west lake hills). Imagine a more chaotic seen than a tarantula crashing a bachelorette party… Needless to say, I will be recovering physically, emotionally, and spiritually for the rest of the week.
Two client presentations stand between me and a three day bachelorette party in beautiful Austin, TX. Lake Travis Friday. Cutting a rug down West Sixth on Saturday. Buckle up Austin, Chicago is comin’ for ya!
I work in an open office layout where you have the option for a mesh chair, yoga ball, or standing desk. Well, today was a good day. Our office yoga ball acrobat missed the dismount on one of her more powerful bounces and not only went down hard, but took her keyboard and monitor with her.
Fellow Chicagoan with a fool proof strategy here. Go to a local consignment shop, buy a decent looking coat for <$15, wear your new "beer coat" to the bars and if its gets stolen… well, who cares? You were able to warmly get into the bar for the cost of a river north beer
Not blatantly basic or offensive, but I most often come across guys that list their alma mater or occupation in their bios, essentially insulting my ability to read when that’s already listed. I don’t know why, but it bothers me and I always left swipe and assume you’re uninteresting.
As a regular gym going female (please excuse the username), I think the gym is a great place to meet someone because you already have a common interest (the working out thing). Eye contact is a trusted sign to go for it.
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As a girl, I enjoy introducing myself as Brandon to people I don’t want to be talking to. The struggle with “is she kidding? If I laugh, I risk offending her. If I don’t laugh, I risk looking like a fool” …always fun.
Well I do live in Chicago so that feeling is probably justified.
Top DIII soccer school… did you go to Messiah? – Fellow alum of a small private university no one has heard of
For the past 4 years I’ve taken the Amtrak monthly from Chicago – Central IL. Stories range from my male seatmate (visual: college janitor, long blonde hair, red leather jacket) asking me out to a fast food mexican joint 20 min before our destination, getting drunk on miller lites on a Saturday morning because the 50 year old doctor next to me didn’t want to drink alone (leading to a very confused mother picking up her shamefully drunk daughter at the train station), and being given foreign candy to a soon to be stalker that followed me to my ride through the streets of Chicago. That is just a taste. Amtrak is an adventure in a class of its own.
As a former store manager… this was the most obvious fake (and most common) excuse.
Big Divvy guy here. Can confirm, the endorphins coupled with a commute time cut in half is enough to have me looking forward to hitting the road to work each day.
“I give so few shits about this I am metaphorically constipated”
I loved this so very much.
Coming from someone who spent years digging herself out of the same feeling, I empathize. My personality is happy/goofy by nature, so it totally masked the insecurities that had complete control of my mind. It wasn’t until I finally started talking to friends/family about it that I made any real steps toward long term improvement. I have so much respect for you for seeking therapy. Just don’t forget to make a concerted effort each day to do something that makes you happy (though it looks like you are doing that already). You WILL come out of this with a confidence you didn’t know you could have.
Took me a long four years in this city to lock down a “friend with a boat.” Tomorrow friends… you can find me on a lobster raft in Chicago’s Play Pen from approximately 9am-7pm.
You just summarized my week last week. Two days of crying/no appetite followed by two days of going for “runs” that turned into “how much can I make this hurt so I don’t feel emotion” …needless to say, I should have entered my ass in a race because I was out there averaging 6:10 miles for a 5k like a real psycho. Lost 3 pounds in the process so in hindsight, had a great break up week!
promised my boyfriend in college that we would do it on the 50 yard line at some point. Then we broke up and a couple weeks later decided we needed to at least keep that promise… so we did it
This is way too real to me right now. After 5 months, I had to initiate a break up with a guy I’m crazy about because he’s afraid to commit. It feels horrible right now, but I know in my gut we should never settle for someone who isn’t all in for us.
Commenced our Austin bachelorette weekend by drunkenly cherry bombing a tarantula that got into our airbnb (we stayed in west lake hills). Can you imagine a more chaotic seen than a tarantula crashing a bachelorette party…
Kicked off Austin bachelorette weekend by drunkenly cherry bombing a tarantula that got into our airbnb (we stayed in west lake hills). Imagine a more chaotic seen than a tarantula crashing a bachelorette party… Needless to say, I will be recovering physically, emotionally, and spiritually for the rest of the week.
Two client presentations stand between me and a three day bachelorette party in beautiful Austin, TX. Lake Travis Friday. Cutting a rug down West Sixth on Saturday. Buckle up Austin, Chicago is comin’ for ya!
I work in an open office layout where you have the option for a mesh chair, yoga ball, or standing desk. Well, today was a good day. Our office yoga ball acrobat missed the dismount on one of her more powerful bounces and not only went down hard, but took her keyboard and monitor with her.
Title induced a minor panic in me because I’m going on a bumble date in Chicago’s West Loop tonight. Idk Kanye though so we good.
Fellow Chicagoan with a fool proof strategy here. Go to a local consignment shop, buy a decent looking coat for <$15, wear your new "beer coat" to the bars and if its gets stolen… well, who cares? You were able to warmly get into the bar for the cost of a river north beer
Not blatantly basic or offensive, but I most often come across guys that list their alma mater or occupation in their bios, essentially insulting my ability to read when that’s already listed. I don’t know why, but it bothers me and I always left swipe and assume you’re uninteresting.
As a regular gym going female (please excuse the username), I think the gym is a great place to meet someone because you already have a common interest (the working out thing). Eye contact is a trusted sign to go for it.