First Girl – I agree with the other comments about medication, alcohol, or some mental hang up possibly causing your man’s situation. It could also be that his style of masturbation is really rough, so he’s basically desensitized himself to actual sex. The next time y’all talk about it, nicely ask him if he’s able to finish by himself, and if it has been a problem with past sexual partners. If he’s able to finish by himself but never with past partners, this is likely the case. He should lay off touching himself for a few weeks, it may reset the equipment. Or you can just give him a blowjob and when you think he’s as close to climax as he can get, look him in the eyes and ask him to “show me how you like it” and finish himself on your chest or something. Sex should be fun and fulfilling for all parties, and open communication will only make it better! If you really like this guy you should keep trying for at least a little bit. It may wind up being a deal breaker though.
Thank you for this very honest piece about something we all deal with at some point! I think the ability to be “body neutral” and compassionate is even more empowering than “body positivity”. We don’t have to keep telling ourselves to feel good about our perceived flaws and that everything is fine and perfect and everyone is beautiful, because no one really believes that anyway. It’s nice to be able give yourself the space to be able to say, “Actually I do hate this part. But it’s not the end of the world and there are way more important things about me. And my thighs do not matter that much in the grand scheme of anything!”
This is so basic but everyone I know gets Whiteclaw or those other sparkling water/alcohol things and puts fruit in them for the pool or beach. Buzz and a snack, and it’s refreshing af.
Not to be a downer, but as a girl I’d be nervous about accepting a drink they ordered for me before I got there. At least if it was a first date with a true stranger from an app. Like I really don’t think guys are out there drugging girls left and right, but crazies do exist and can hide it long enough for you to let you guard down. Do the kids not worry about this anymore? Am I old?
YES! So much good beer, food scene is catching up, close to mountains and awesome beaches, professional sports teams, lots of young people, and won’t break the bank. So many finance bros though… not that I don’t love them
To the girl whose bf just broke up with her in the small town… please just wait a little bit before you make any major decisions. You can definitely start polishing your resume, floating stuff/ideas out there, but don’t do anything final until you’re in a better head space. I hate to say it, but if it’s only been a week since you lost the one you thought you were going to marry, the emotional roller coaster is just beginning. But focusing on you right now and how you might move/make your life awesome will be a great positive distraction. Keep your chin up and best of luck. That situation sucks, but it does get better.
I was firmly in the No Cuddle Camp until I fell madly in love, then I became the most obnoxious snuggler ever. It was full contact all night most times, still fell asleep within 3 minutes and slept like the dead. Best feeling in the entire world was waking up next to him, right where we left off. Then he broke my heart/dumped my ass and it took weeks for me to be able to sleep through the night alone.
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Everyone told me there would a magical time between acne and wrinkles. I’m still waiting for that. Adult acne is fun. PGP.
First Girl – I agree with the other comments about medication, alcohol, or some mental hang up possibly causing your man’s situation. It could also be that his style of masturbation is really rough, so he’s basically desensitized himself to actual sex. The next time y’all talk about it, nicely ask him if he’s able to finish by himself, and if it has been a problem with past sexual partners. If he’s able to finish by himself but never with past partners, this is likely the case. He should lay off touching himself for a few weeks, it may reset the equipment. Or you can just give him a blowjob and when you think he’s as close to climax as he can get, look him in the eyes and ask him to “show me how you like it” and finish himself on your chest or something. Sex should be fun and fulfilling for all parties, and open communication will only make it better! If you really like this guy you should keep trying for at least a little bit. It may wind up being a deal breaker though.
Put a little caviar on top of your deviled eggs. GAME. CHANGER.
Thank you for this very honest piece about something we all deal with at some point! I think the ability to be “body neutral” and compassionate is even more empowering than “body positivity”. We don’t have to keep telling ourselves to feel good about our perceived flaws and that everything is fine and perfect and everyone is beautiful, because no one really believes that anyway. It’s nice to be able give yourself the space to be able to say, “Actually I do hate this part. But it’s not the end of the world and there are way more important things about me. And my thighs do not matter that much in the grand scheme of anything!”
YES I too have noticed the wonderful soft lighting in VS! Now if I can just figure out how to mimic it in my entire home…
This is so basic but everyone I know gets Whiteclaw or those other sparkling water/alcohol things and puts fruit in them for the pool or beach. Buzz and a snack, and it’s refreshing af.
Not to be a downer, but as a girl I’d be nervous about accepting a drink they ordered for me before I got there. At least if it was a first date with a true stranger from an app. Like I really don’t think guys are out there drugging girls left and right, but crazies do exist and can hide it long enough for you to let you guard down. Do the kids not worry about this anymore? Am I old?
That sucks, I’m sorry. But more importantly, HE SUCKS!
How is every single aspect of your life terrible?
That’s why it’s called a Woody Wagon! I’m all about the ’89, black, navy, or hunter green exterior, tan interior option
YES! So much good beer, food scene is catching up, close to mountains and awesome beaches, professional sports teams, lots of young people, and won’t break the bank. So many finance bros though… not that I don’t love them
As my grandfather once said, sometimes you have to make your own perks.
This was beautiful!
That is amazing
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To the girl whose bf just broke up with her in the small town… please just wait a little bit before you make any major decisions. You can definitely start polishing your resume, floating stuff/ideas out there, but don’t do anything final until you’re in a better head space. I hate to say it, but if it’s only been a week since you lost the one you thought you were going to marry, the emotional roller coaster is just beginning. But focusing on you right now and how you might move/make your life awesome will be a great positive distraction. Keep your chin up and best of luck. That situation sucks, but it does get better.
Well I’m fucked.
I mean I moved into a high rise apartment building, what else do you want from me?
I was firmly in the No Cuddle Camp until I fell madly in love, then I became the most obnoxious snuggler ever. It was full contact all night most times, still fell asleep within 3 minutes and slept like the dead. Best feeling in the entire world was waking up next to him, right where we left off. Then he broke my heart/dumped my ass and it took weeks for me to be able to sleep through the night alone.