You know what, you’re right, Bill. I interchangeably used open-minded and liberal, and you reminded me that they don’t actually mean the same thing. This has been edited.
I haven’t changed my mind about using my sexuality because I’ve gotten “older and not as desirable.” It’s because as I’ve gotten older and had more experiences, I’ve realized that my desirability is not what I want to defined by and is not where I want to place my value.
I agree that it’s important to note that women are responsible for stating and enforcing their boundaries. This is the reason that I talked about this and stated it multiple times in the article – I don’t want to rob women of their agency, and it’s imperative that we use our voices. However, it’s important for you to know that many of us haven’t been taught how to do this effectively because, traditionally, women have been conditioned to be sweet and agreeable rather than confrontational. It’s something we’re continuing to learn as adults. As far as the part about how my statement about letting a dude fuck you rather than harass you contradicts “no means no,” please see my previous comment for clarification.
I completely agree. I think that if you don’t want to have sex with someone, you should always tell them to fuck off. When I made this statement, I wasn’t necessarily referring to somebody who could easily be dismissed as an “annoying creep.” I was talking about a guy that you would have sex with in the future/ have had sex with in the past but just don’t want to fuck at the moment. As I said, if you don’t want to have sex with someone, you should always tell them to fuck off, but, personally, I have been in situations where I felt pressured to just let someone fuck me rather than suffer them continuously trying to, and I have other friends that have felt this same pressure. I’m not saying that it’s something that you should do, and I think you’re absolutely correct that when you let this happen, it reinforces the behavior. Also, I know people that have been in situations like the woman who commented above where they ended up in an uncomfortable situation, were unsure of how the guy would react if they reject him, and did not necessarily have a safe way to leave or get home. I think that, in addition to society’s failure to hold men to appropriate treatment of women, enforcing boundaries is something we’ve also not done a good job of teaching women and is something we need to improve on. I apologize if my words were interpreted to mean that this interaction is normal and acceptable, and I have reworded the article to reflect my personal experience rather than make a generalization.
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Did you get to the end of the article? I support you in this.
You know what, you’re right, Bill. I interchangeably used open-minded and liberal, and you reminded me that they don’t actually mean the same thing. This has been edited.
I haven’t changed my mind about using my sexuality because I’ve gotten “older and not as desirable.” It’s because as I’ve gotten older and had more experiences, I’ve realized that my desirability is not what I want to defined by and is not where I want to place my value.
I agree that it’s important to note that women are responsible for stating and enforcing their boundaries. This is the reason that I talked about this and stated it multiple times in the article – I don’t want to rob women of their agency, and it’s imperative that we use our voices. However, it’s important for you to know that many of us haven’t been taught how to do this effectively because, traditionally, women have been conditioned to be sweet and agreeable rather than confrontational. It’s something we’re continuing to learn as adults. As far as the part about how my statement about letting a dude fuck you rather than harass you contradicts “no means no,” please see my previous comment for clarification.
I completely agree. I think that if you don’t want to have sex with someone, you should always tell them to fuck off. When I made this statement, I wasn’t necessarily referring to somebody who could easily be dismissed as an “annoying creep.” I was talking about a guy that you would have sex with in the future/ have had sex with in the past but just don’t want to fuck at the moment. As I said, if you don’t want to have sex with someone, you should always tell them to fuck off, but, personally, I have been in situations where I felt pressured to just let someone fuck me rather than suffer them continuously trying to, and I have other friends that have felt this same pressure. I’m not saying that it’s something that you should do, and I think you’re absolutely correct that when you let this happen, it reinforces the behavior. Also, I know people that have been in situations like the woman who commented above where they ended up in an uncomfortable situation, were unsure of how the guy would react if they reject him, and did not necessarily have a safe way to leave or get home. I think that, in addition to society’s failure to hold men to appropriate treatment of women, enforcing boundaries is something we’ve also not done a good job of teaching women and is something we need to improve on. I apologize if my words were interpreted to mean that this interaction is normal and acceptable, and I have reworded the article to reflect my personal experience rather than make a generalization.
Of course.
It goes down in the DMs. @xohannahrozay on IG.
Send me screenshots of your Bumble profiles, and I will get down to the bottom of this.
Solid point. If someone doesn’t hit you up to go on a second date, you don’t need to send an unsolicited breakup text.
Definitely true. Unless you’ve already ended things and they won’t stop contacting you on some Stage 5 clinger shit.