I think you’re overthinking it. PGP community correct me if I’m wrong, but I think that most guys don’t need constant assurance that they’re appreciated; we tend to assume that we are unless stuff happens that makes us think otherwise. I’m limited by the info you’ve provided, but to me, it sounds like you become insecure in the relationship and get clingy, which of course freaks the guy out in early stages and he leaves.
The criticism that 19th Hole and I are talking about is stuff that happens later in relationships. He’s married and my girlfriend and I live together and have openly discussed marriage (when, not if). It’s the kind of stuff that takes time to build. I’d honestly be weirded out if my girlfriend started criticizing me a few months into the relationship.
Do guys that aren’t physically attracted to you keep dating you or do you keep putting guys on a pedestal? Because if it’s the latter, stop it! No one likes being put on a pedestal because it’s embarrassing and honestly, degrading.
My relationship with my girlfriend wouldn’t be the same if she didn’t bring my sometimes cocky self to earth and remind me that while she does love me, my shit doesn’t smell like roses.
I’m sorry for your loss, Madoff. I lost my mom ten years ago, when I was a sophomore in college, and I would not wish the grief from losing a parent at a young age on my worst enemy. I completely empathize with you about wanting to give anything for a few minutes with your parent – I would love to tell my mom all about my life now, as it’s hopefully it’s the kind of life she envisioned for me when she, my dad and baby Bill Nye uprooted their lives and moved to a foreign land 6,000 miles away.
As the years go by, the pain starts to dull. The memories, when you recall them, always hurt the same, but they do come up less and less often. When you think back to your deceased parent and realize that this pain you’re feeling was the last thing in the world that they wanted for you, you have to try and get over it. It sounds like you’ve found contentment in your life, but if you have not, I hope you are able to do so.
Not yet, but they’re on my list. I’m definitely a casual video gamer so while I know that BotW is supposed to be a masterpiece, I just don’t know if I’ll have the means to sink in the 100 hours you need to in order to fully appreciate it. Definitely getting Super Mario Odyssey at some point soon though.
Fuck that, as long as you’re not still living in your mom’s basement and spending 10 hours a day pwning n00bs, no one cares if you play video games from time to time. I just got a Switch with Mario Kart 8 and couldn’t be more excited.
Bingo. You should check out Venezuela, I think you’d love it. Thanks to socialism, no one celebrates Valentine’s Day or Christmas or any other evil capitalist holiday. In fact, I hear that a true holiday in Venezuela is when you’re lucky enough to find an unused roll of toilet paper or a week-old hunk of bread.
You’re thinking in extremes; not everything is black or white. There’s a very fine line between going all out on a $400 dinner and bringing her a bouquet of flowers the night before.
This is kinda like meeting vs. exceeding expectations. Like yes, if she said that she doesn’t want anything and you don’t in fact get her anything, then there’s nothing REALLY wrong with that. But if she said she didn’t want anything and you surprise her with flowers, you get brownie points for days.
Maybe I’m just misreading things, but growing up, my dad would always bring my mom flowers on March 8 for International Women’s Day and it always made her day.
That’s a shit move on Uber’s part. Before giving up, I would speak with your credit card company (hopefully you used a credit card and not a debit card) and explain the situation to them. I’m not a lawyer, but I would think that merchant retaliation for credit card disputes would be against the merchant-credit card ToS.
That’s kind of what happens when a major sporting event is held halfway across the globe. In Olympics past, NBC has gotten flack for refusing to show any events outside of prime time in tape delay, so at least now you have the option to live stream everything. And at least they’re showing the big events live in prime time anyway.
I know, I know. Damn the patriarchy, sexist white men, etc. etc. It’s okay to be “woke” during the day as you cry yourself to sleep from all your loneliness at night.
Special shout-out to NBC. Your Olympic coverage is generally shit, but Friday’s opening ceremony was extra awful. Between cutting out 25 minutes of a 2 hour show in a 3 hour time slot and spending 10 minutes showing Team USA when their entrance was MAYBE a minute and saying fucked up things about Korea/Japan and the Netherlands – no, the Dutch don’t casually ice skate to work along Amsterdam’s canals – it might have been a new low.
Bring her flowers to dinner on the 13th. That way, when she wakes up on the 14th and sees the flowers at home in a vase, she’ll still feel special and Valentine’s Day-y, even though you two aren’t actually doing anything that day.
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I think you’re overthinking it. PGP community correct me if I’m wrong, but I think that most guys don’t need constant assurance that they’re appreciated; we tend to assume that we are unless stuff happens that makes us think otherwise. I’m limited by the info you’ve provided, but to me, it sounds like you become insecure in the relationship and get clingy, which of course freaks the guy out in early stages and he leaves.
The criticism that 19th Hole and I are talking about is stuff that happens later in relationships. He’s married and my girlfriend and I live together and have openly discussed marriage (when, not if). It’s the kind of stuff that takes time to build. I’d honestly be weirded out if my girlfriend started criticizing me a few months into the relationship.
Exactly. Because only the people that truly love us will be honest about our strengths AND our faults.
Do guys that aren’t physically attracted to you keep dating you or do you keep putting guys on a pedestal? Because if it’s the latter, stop it! No one likes being put on a pedestal because it’s embarrassing and honestly, degrading.
My relationship with my girlfriend wouldn’t be the same if she didn’t bring my sometimes cocky self to earth and remind me that while she does love me, my shit doesn’t smell like roses.
To the last guy: why are you dating someone you’re not physically attracted to?
I’m sorry for your loss, Madoff. I lost my mom ten years ago, when I was a sophomore in college, and I would not wish the grief from losing a parent at a young age on my worst enemy. I completely empathize with you about wanting to give anything for a few minutes with your parent – I would love to tell my mom all about my life now, as it’s hopefully it’s the kind of life she envisioned for me when she, my dad and baby Bill Nye uprooted their lives and moved to a foreign land 6,000 miles away.
As the years go by, the pain starts to dull. The memories, when you recall them, always hurt the same, but they do come up less and less often. When you think back to your deceased parent and realize that this pain you’re feeling was the last thing in the world that they wanted for you, you have to try and get over it. It sounds like you’ve found contentment in your life, but if you have not, I hope you are able to do so.
Not yet, but they’re on my list. I’m definitely a casual video gamer so while I know that BotW is supposed to be a masterpiece, I just don’t know if I’ll have the means to sink in the 100 hours you need to in order to fully appreciate it. Definitely getting Super Mario Odyssey at some point soon though.
Fuck that, as long as you’re not still living in your mom’s basement and spending 10 hours a day pwning n00bs, no one cares if you play video games from time to time. I just got a Switch with Mario Kart 8 and couldn’t be more excited.
It was supposed to be, but clearly didn’t come out that way. Could’ve really uses that edit button. What I meant to say was,
“is that where your now wife took you before she de-flowered you at a Hilton?”
Is that what you with your now wife before she de-flowered you at a Hilton?
“not as…anti capitalism as I am ”
Bingo. You should check out Venezuela, I think you’d love it. Thanks to socialism, no one celebrates Valentine’s Day or Christmas or any other evil capitalist holiday. In fact, I hear that a true holiday in Venezuela is when you’re lucky enough to find an unused roll of toilet paper or a week-old hunk of bread.
You’re thinking in extremes; not everything is black or white. There’s a very fine line between going all out on a $400 dinner and bringing her a bouquet of flowers the night before.
This is kinda like meeting vs. exceeding expectations. Like yes, if she said that she doesn’t want anything and you don’t in fact get her anything, then there’s nothing REALLY wrong with that. But if she said she didn’t want anything and you surprise her with flowers, you get brownie points for days.
Maybe I’m just misreading things, but growing up, my dad would always bring my mom flowers on March 8 for International Women’s Day and it always made her day.
You can watch it live though. Sure it would be at like 3 am, but you can stream all the events through NBC’s site/app.
That’s a shit move on Uber’s part. Before giving up, I would speak with your credit card company (hopefully you used a credit card and not a debit card) and explain the situation to them. I’m not a lawyer, but I would think that merchant retaliation for credit card disputes would be against the merchant-credit card ToS.
Dispute it with your credit card company. That’s fraud.
That’s kind of what happens when a major sporting event is held halfway across the globe. In Olympics past, NBC has gotten flack for refusing to show any events outside of prime time in tape delay, so at least now you have the option to live stream everything. And at least they’re showing the big events live in prime time anyway.
I know, I know. Damn the patriarchy, sexist white men, etc. etc. It’s okay to be “woke” during the day as you cry yourself to sleep from all your loneliness at night.
Special shout-out to NBC. Your Olympic coverage is generally shit, but Friday’s opening ceremony was extra awful. Between cutting out 25 minutes of a 2 hour show in a 3 hour time slot and spending 10 minutes showing Team USA when their entrance was MAYBE a minute and saying fucked up things about Korea/Japan and the Netherlands – no, the Dutch don’t casually ice skate to work along Amsterdam’s canals – it might have been a new low.
Bring her flowers to dinner on the 13th. That way, when she wakes up on the 14th and sees the flowers at home in a vase, she’ll still feel special and Valentine’s Day-y, even though you two aren’t actually doing anything that day.
Moderation: something I don’t have when drinking alcohol.