One adage that’s always stuck with me is of two people buying shoes. One is thrifty, but knows a good value when he sees it so he buys a pair for $300 and they last him ten years. The other is cheap and buy shoes for $100, but has to replace them every two years. In the end, the person who spent more initially ends up spending less money. It kind of reflects how I view spending habits: know when it’s worth it to be cheap and know when it isn’t.
But you’ll have to pry that $15 avocado toast from my cold, dead hands.
I have the opposite problem – I’m actually the type of person who will follow up about getting that beer, only to be blown off because the other person wasn’t serious. It doesn’t make sense why you’d shoot the shit and talk about meeting up if neither of you has any intention of doing so.
The Giants won 3 World Series in 5 years and the Warriors won 3 NBA titles in 4 years. I genuinely feel #blessed as a sports fan to have witnessed all this and as a result, I’m not even mad when my teams fuck up. Although if by some miraculous stroke of God my Bruins ever make it to and win the Rose Bowl Game (not even talking CFP here…), I will cry tears of joy.
This probably doesn’t relate to the majority of the site’s readership, but I don’t drink frequently. I can go months without getting drunk, if not more, and no longer need alcohol to serve as a social lubricant. However, I drink coffee every day, multiple times a day. I’ve found that caffeine substitutes aren’t as good for you (chemicals, calories, etc.) and the small amount of caffeine in tea doesn’t really have an effect on me.
Booze. Easily. I need coffee to be productive, given how early I wake up during the week, and by now I genuinely like the taste of it and it’s actually good for you. Without booze, I could still get fucked up using other ways.
Couldn’t agree more about Marissa being just as responsible. We also don’t know Marissa’s state of mind when the hookup happened. Was she sober while Alex was drunk? If so, that could be constituted as her raping him. Might want to get Alex’s side of the story too before doing anything.
Friend group guy: I’d tell your girlfriend, but keep it internal to your relationship and leave everything else to Marissa/Alex. Both of them fucked up – Alex fucked over his girlfriend and Marissa fucked over her friend. They need to be adults and come clean and it’s not your responsibility to do it for them.
2 girls, 1 guy: I agree with Dillon: drop both girls. The college girl has some serious deal-breakers and the lack of the spark is concerning with the other girl. It’s not unusual to lose the spark further into relationship, but in the early stages, you two need to want to fuck each other’s brains out.
Fair point, kind of missed that part…which only makes things worse for the guy. How do you ghost a girl that’s met your father?
But on the flip side, it’s also weird to go days without talking with someone that you’re so serious with. It doesn’t say anywhere whether they were exclusive…but who introduces a girl to their family if they aren’t exclusive with her?
That guy is an asshole and I apologize on behalf of all the good guys out there. Out of state jobs don’t just fall into your lap and he was probably at least in the process of interviewing when you guys met and definitely in the process during the month you were together. He stayed with you for that month because he was getting ass and then when the real world hit, he bailed.
But look on the bright side: better you find out that he’s a shitty person after a month than after a longer time span.
I know you’re being you and making fun of a well known stereotype, but it’s not actually true. You can make decent money and have a nice apartment and not live in poverty here, as long as you know where to live. The problem is that all the transplants want to live in the cool and trendy areas so of course they’re going to pay up the ass for them. But if you look around and are fine with quieter areas, you can easily find good places that cost a quarter to a third of your gross rent, which is basically what you’re supposed to pay.
Agreed. The girlfriend was out of town last weekend so I picked up the slack by running errands and doing laundry, but I would’ve looked at her like she’s mad if she expected me to hang out with her friends to represent “us.” That’s just beyond weird.
Yes because we’re millenials and live paycheck to paycheck while spending all our money on craft beers and avocado toast. $300 is like…20 orders of avocado toast.
Would your girlfriend’s friends still stay friends with you if you two broke up? If yes, they’re actually your friends (and shitty friends to her). If no, they’re not your friends. Either way, you lose. So no, not your friends.
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So where are you going to hide the ring?
One adage that’s always stuck with me is of two people buying shoes. One is thrifty, but knows a good value when he sees it so he buys a pair for $300 and they last him ten years. The other is cheap and buy shoes for $100, but has to replace them every two years. In the end, the person who spent more initially ends up spending less money. It kind of reflects how I view spending habits: know when it’s worth it to be cheap and know when it isn’t.
But you’ll have to pry that $15 avocado toast from my cold, dead hands.
I have the opposite problem – I’m actually the type of person who will follow up about getting that beer, only to be blown off because the other person wasn’t serious. It doesn’t make sense why you’d shoot the shit and talk about meeting up if neither of you has any intention of doing so.
The Giants won 3 World Series in 5 years and the Warriors won 3 NBA titles in 4 years. I genuinely feel #blessed as a sports fan to have witnessed all this and as a result, I’m not even mad when my teams fuck up. Although if by some miraculous stroke of God my Bruins ever make it to and win the Rose Bowl Game (not even talking CFP here…), I will cry tears of joy.
Jay Z and Beyoncé at Levi’s next Saturday.
This probably doesn’t relate to the majority of the site’s readership, but I don’t drink frequently. I can go months without getting drunk, if not more, and no longer need alcohol to serve as a social lubricant. However, I drink coffee every day, multiple times a day. I’ve found that caffeine substitutes aren’t as good for you (chemicals, calories, etc.) and the small amount of caffeine in tea doesn’t really have an effect on me.
Booze. Easily. I need coffee to be productive, given how early I wake up during the week, and by now I genuinely like the taste of it and it’s actually good for you. Without booze, I could still get fucked up using other ways.
Couldn’t agree more about Marissa being just as responsible. We also don’t know Marissa’s state of mind when the hookup happened. Was she sober while Alex was drunk? If so, that could be constituted as her raping him. Might want to get Alex’s side of the story too before doing anything.
That time span is inversely proportional to the size of his balls.
Friend group guy: I’d tell your girlfriend, but keep it internal to your relationship and leave everything else to Marissa/Alex. Both of them fucked up – Alex fucked over his girlfriend and Marissa fucked over her friend. They need to be adults and come clean and it’s not your responsibility to do it for them.
2 girls, 1 guy: I agree with Dillon: drop both girls. The college girl has some serious deal-breakers and the lack of the spark is concerning with the other girl. It’s not unusual to lose the spark further into relationship, but in the early stages, you two need to want to fuck each other’s brains out.
Fair point, kind of missed that part…which only makes things worse for the guy. How do you ghost a girl that’s met your father?
But on the flip side, it’s also weird to go days without talking with someone that you’re so serious with. It doesn’t say anywhere whether they were exclusive…but who introduces a girl to their family if they aren’t exclusive with her?
I don’t like to call them “liberals” because they stand for exactly the opposite of what classical liberals stand for. I prefer “progressives.”
That guy is an asshole and I apologize on behalf of all the good guys out there. Out of state jobs don’t just fall into your lap and he was probably at least in the process of interviewing when you guys met and definitely in the process during the month you were together. He stayed with you for that month because he was getting ass and then when the real world hit, he bailed.
But look on the bright side: better you find out that he’s a shitty person after a month than after a longer time span.
I know you’re being you and making fun of a well known stereotype, but it’s not actually true. You can make decent money and have a nice apartment and not live in poverty here, as long as you know where to live. The problem is that all the transplants want to live in the cool and trendy areas so of course they’re going to pay up the ass for them. But if you look around and are fine with quieter areas, you can easily find good places that cost a quarter to a third of your gross rent, which is basically what you’re supposed to pay.
I dunno, as a San Francisco native, I can honestly say that this city has become a shithole. Pun intended.
Agreed. The girlfriend was out of town last weekend so I picked up the slack by running errands and doing laundry, but I would’ve looked at her like she’s mad if she expected me to hang out with her friends to represent “us.” That’s just beyond weird.
My liver and brain hurt from just imagining the 3-day hangover from this.
Yes because we’re millenials and live paycheck to paycheck while spending all our money on craft beers and avocado toast. $300 is like…20 orders of avocado toast.
Would your girlfriend’s friends still stay friends with you if you two broke up? If yes, they’re actually your friends (and shitty friends to her). If no, they’re not your friends. Either way, you lose. So no, not your friends.
It’s beginning to look like taking James Conner in the sixth round is the fantasy football steal of the century.