This week, we have an all female question pool. I’m hoping you guys find these questions helpful, or at the very least entertaining. As always, keep ’em comin’. Questions are in quotes below.
I went on a date with a boy on Tuesday last week and it was great. Super fun kid, funny, smart, nice, whole 9. We ended up heading back to his place and making out at his apartment after for a few hours but due to some monthly timing that’s all we could do. I did not spend the night.
Anyways, Wednesday (morning after date #1): kid texts me and asks me to go to dinner again. I had to work an event for my office so I denied.
Thursday: Texts me and asks me to dinner, but I had after hours plans with my roommates so again, I graciously denied.
Friday: Texts me and asks me to get drinks, but I let him know I was going out of town for the weekend. It was nothing against him, I honestly had something going on every single night he asked after date one.
Sunday: I’m driving back from State College quite hungover and I get this text: “I understand you’re not feeling us anymore, you could’ve just told me instead of acting like you liked me in the first place.”
I actually did like him. But 1. I was way too hungover to deal with that kind of talk and 2. We went out for the first time on Tuesday night, he’s talking as if we had been dating for months?
I’m not sure I want to give him another chance. I’m comfortable being single for a few more years and this kid is becoming more and more of a nuisance in my mind as time goes on. Please advise.
Interesting to see how girls treat situations like this. I’ve had something similar happen to me — I’m not in the mood to text so I just don’t text back. Is it rude? Considering I have read receipts on, yeah, I guess it is a little rude. But what’s the alternative? Text back and then get into a conversation that lasts for hours that you’re not even into? Get outta here. The fact that he texted you every day for a week following a single dinner date should tell you everything you need to know: the juice ain’t worth the squeeze. Maybe he was funny, smart, and nice. But if you’re annoyed with him after one week just imagine how peeved you’re going to be three months into dating this dude.
You went on one date with this kid and he texted you the next day to get dinner. That is psychotic behavior. I don’t abide by that two-day rule or whatever it is about texting a girl, but to ask you out again the following night is totally strange. Get out now. This guy sounds like he harvests people’s organs in the basement of his apartment building. Enjoy your life as a single girl, and next time you’re in a situation like this where you’re annoyed but too nice to not respond to a text message, just ignore him. Ignoring someone’s text message (especially if you have read receipts enabled) goes a long way in letting someone know you’re not interested.
1. Are girls starting to recognize you? If I lived in Chicago I would 100% be asking you out right now.
2. My actual question…I’m dating in a different big city and currently have two guys I really like. It’s been a few weeks and I really don’t have a front-runner. At what point am I being a dick? A few more weeks in? If I start sleeping with both? I’ve never been in this situation before and my female friends say I should tell them both. What do you think?
To answer your first question, no. Girls do not recognize me when I’m out in the wild drinking cold domestics with my boys. That would be really cool if it did start happening, though. A few months back I had a match on bumble ask me if I wrote for PGP and I said yes. She followed up my response with, “Ah, cool. I’d never go out with you after reading your stuff.” I got a good laugh out of it. But enough about me.
It sounds like we’ve got a classic love triangle going on — don’t get angry but this is how I interpreted your question. You’re juggling two boys at once and you’re scared that if you tell them what’s really going on that both of them are going to leave you in the dust. It’s not so much that you’re being a dick, you’re just being kind of shitty stringing these two along. If you’re telling the truth and you’re actually not fucking either one of them I think it’s a different story. If you’re not having sex, feelings don’t get hurt. Egos aren’t bruised.
But this is the internet, after all. So while I’d like to say that I believe your story, I don’t. I’ll go ahead and just assume you are sleeping with both. No judgement here, it’s 2016. Go get your buckets. But you can’t just keep both of them in the dark. I think the play here, for lack of a better phrase, is to shit or get off the pot. Pick one or don’t pick either. Do you really think you can keep this façade up for much longer than a few weeks? Do you have to slant your phone away from one of the dudes when you’re texting the other one? Are you a sociopath? All I’m saying is that you can’t walk on eggshells forever. If you don’t come clean you’re more than likely going to get burned, and I don’t want to see that happen to you. Draw a line in the sand. Pick one and get it over with. .
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