Before everyone’s moms and grandmas infiltrated Facebook, it was a more honest time. A time where you’d write an inappropriate anecdote on your friend’s wall recounting the drunk night before. A time when you’d log in and see if anyone had “poked” you. A time when your newsfeed was filled with 60 photo albums (because that was the maximum amount of photos you could actually upload) filled with theme parties, Halloweens, spring breaks, and late night selfies.
Now? It’s couple’s therapy. You seemingly have to hire a professional photographer and make your way into a field in order to get 100 likes. Or, you know, have a kid.
And if you’re single? Facebook is no place for you – stick to Snapchat. Just started seeing someone? Hang out on Instagram’s activity tab to see which photos they’ve been liking. And only when you finally graduate to a full-blown relationship can you actually begin uploading photos to Facebook again.
Unfortunately, it’s not all gumdrops and unicorns for all the couples posting out there, per relationship expert and ‘sexologist’ (is that a thing?) Nikki Goldstein.
Often it’s the people who post the most who are seeking validation for their relationship from other people on social media.
The likes and comments can be so validating that when someone is really struggling, that’s where they get their up from – not the person making the gesture, but what other people will say about it.
I’ve had a long-standing theory that going “Facebook official” is the kiss of death for any relationship, but she insinuates that it’s much more than that. If you tell this to any self-respecting Instagrammer, she’ll tell you that “couples pictures get the most likes,” and she’s right.
She went on to ask, “Are we the same in the real world, away from our screens, and are we more concerned about how the relationship actually is, or are we more interested in how it looks online?” I hate to burst your bubble here, Nikki, but it’s 2017 – your relationship pretty much is online.
While you’re uploading your next photo of your boyfriend or girlfriend, you might want to do a deep dive and ensure those spring break pictures from 2006 have been scrubbed from your albums. Just an FYI. .
[via Daily Mail]