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I’ve been dating a lot recently, definitely more than normal. I made a comment to a buddy about how I’ve got the Kavorka, the lure of the animal. I postulated that it’s because I recently had a birthday and so people think I’m more dateable. I’m not, let’s make that clear, but I’m okay letting women think it.
However, I was quickly dismissed. My buddy told me it was one hundo p the result of “cuffing season.” I couldn’t believe what I was hearing. Cuffing season in January? What’re you huffing glue? Smoking toad venom? Grow up Peter Pan Count Chocula. Who wants to start cuffing in the dead of winter? Preposterous.
I’ve been on the record before that cuffing season is in the fall, and I even begged you before that just because it’s fall doesn’t mean you should jump to cuff.
To me this made the most sense. You’ve got a bit of a roster going during the summer, and when the leaves change and you want to get some fire ‘grams off of you in your Han Solo ‘fit crushing the pumpkin patch, you lock down the organization’s top prospect. Fall is a great season for a budding romance; you’re still a normal functioning human before you begin your winter hibernation.
My buddy did, however, make some strong arguments for cuffing season being more of a winter phenomenon. If the motivator for cuffing season is to have someone to share the couch with in your fuzzy blankets and True Grit quarter zips (available on Man Outfitters!), winter would seem the most appropriate season. Personally, I’d rather show my new girl that I can throw together some fire fall ‘fits and actually be a functioning member of society during our honeymoon period, instead of having that be in the winter, but I’m an equal opportunity cuffer. He also said that cuffing is more of a college thing, and it makes sense to lock someone down after you come back from winter break.
Now, I don’t really think anyone should be getting into relationships in college, especially at the beginning of spring semester, but if you’re trying to lock down a significant other in college, beginning of second semester might seem like the perfect time. You don’t want to trek to off-campus parties in sweaty frat basements full of asbestos when it’s 10 degrees out. You don’t want to have to schlep to the library to schmooze with other singles on Wednesdays after class. And locking down a steady in the fall? That’s bananaland for any right minded college kid. Winter break is for singles. You go back home and try to smash your old high school classmates. Can’t do that when you’re not single (*wink*).
I guess it really all comes down to the audience. But, personally, I think cuffing is much more a post grad phenomenon, and thus it should be more closely associated with fall. Cycling relationships based on the seasons, while it knows no age bounds, is just way more pervasive among the young twenty somethings of the post college world. If you’re still in school and you’re trying to cuff? Fine. More strange tail for your classmates. I’d caution that you’re being an idiot for having a relationship in college, but that’s just the retrospective grumblings of a guy who was always in a relationship in college.
I’ll leave the debate to all of you. Is cuffing more of a post grad thing or an undergrad thing? Is it more of a fall thing or a winter thing? Let me know, let’s end the debate. .
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Cuffing is definitely for Postgrad.
Fall- Cuffing Season, aka tryouts lineup your prospects
Winter- the season, when you snuggle and enjoy each other
Spring- Contracts are up for discussion
Summer- the games begin, develop roster.
This is shallow, but this is how I see it.
Don’t forget that mid-season waiver deadline on February 14th.
I like this because I realized that recruiting is a lot like dating
I like to imagine a Madden-esque figure doing a play by of the snuggling.
I definitely prefer January for cuffing season. That way you know by March if you want that person to stick around and do fun shit over the spring/summer or if you need to torpedo the relationship and find a nice summer bae. Cuffing in the fall and breaking up with someone in December sucks since you become cold and alone in a very literal sense.
yeah and also cause it’s during the holidays
Dating in the winter is awful. Cuffing season is fall, so that you have someone to sit around inside with when it gets too cold to be out
You cuff END of Fall, so that you can get the best of both worlds. We’re talkin November rather than September. Then you’re settled by the time the tundra temps hit without compromising riding out the good weather fun. Win win. Plus, it’s still too new for Christmas present pressure and a good timeline for a low expectations Vday.
Maybe there’s a second wave cuffing season around this time. Most of the US is getting into the brutal winter months where it is miserable to step foot outside to engage in the chase. And those who were single over the holidays may have felt those “damn I’m single over the holidays” blues.
I’ve come around on dating through the holidays. I used to think Nov-Dec was for taking a break and focusing on family/friend/work occasions. But it’s kind of nice to date casually during that time and pick it back up more seriously in January. I didn’t get my current guy a Christmas present or spend New Year’s with him, but it’s really picked up and feel like we’ll DTR by February.
I’m in the exact same boat, except we both seem to be dancing around the exclusivity question and it’s driving me insane.
A fall cuffing season can help you field the “Are you still single?” at the family holiday events and parties, which is a plus. The season may be extended or shortened due to that years weather in my opinion.
I’ve always thought of cuffing season as the period starting in September and ending Halloween/early November where you can accomplish 2 things:
1) have someone for when it’s colder out and you really don’t want to go anywhere
2) be dating someone for long enough that when you inevitably get the “where are the grandkids” nonsense from relatives over the holidays, you can parry with someone who you’ve been dating long enough to feel comfortable mentioning (only in passing), but not long enough that they’ll resume the pressure after hearing about them.
Wait so 2 months in to a relationship and your down for kids talk… psycho
Postgrad cuffing is like football. You establish yourself as a contender in the fall. Playoffs (holidays) in December. And if your relationship is strong your Super Bowl is the end of Jan to see if it’s real, or you break up.