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Let me preface this article with this: I’m not overly-feminist. I don’t feel that women are constantly oppressed. I don’t hate males. In fact, I love them. I consider myself a humanist. But I have noticed a trend of injustice that particularly applies to women. When we are being courted by a gentleman caller and start to develop any feelings, we are immediately labeled as being “crazy.” That just isn’t fair.
Dudes, this needs to stop.
Women, we aren’t necessarily innocent either. We are starting to confuse random acts of kindness and general friendliness with flirting and “coming on” attempts. But I’ll save that for another discussion.
As women, we are cursed with these shitty things called emotions. We feel things. When someone takes an interest in us, takes us to dinner, brings us on dates, tells us we’re pretty and generally acts like they give a damn, we reciprocate. Maybe we’re a little more upfront and honest about what we’re feeling, but we need to get it out there to make sure we don’t get screwed over. Unfortunately, the latter is the trend these days.
Dating isn’t cool. Monogamy is for pussies these days. Committing yourself to one person is frowned upon, and that’s kind of sad. I’m no prude, but I’m more of a quality over quantity kind of girl. For that reason, I abstain from causal sex and try not to get involved with people who I get bad vibes from. But even my extreme meticulous dating restrictions haven’t prevented me from being referred to as “crazy.”
We aren’t crazy.
Crazy is a girl texting you more than 20 times in a single day and showing up at your house knocking on the door and hysterically crying after just a couple of dates. That would be terrifying. That is crazy.
Crazy is NOT hanging out with a girl for a few weeks, taking her on dates, hooking up a few times and then she asks you if you can be exclusive. It might not be what you’re into, but that doesn’t make her crazy.
Women usually want the same things guys do: the occasional date to make us feel like you’re not just using us for sex, a night in watching TV and pigging out every once in a while, relatively-constant sex and a genuine compliment from time to time. But if you’re not into that, BE HONEST. Tell us. I guarantee that almost every woman out there would rather you be honest than avoiding the situation and ignoring her. That’s some college-aged shit none of us have time for.
The ambiguous quasi-dating trend these days is making us more and more cynical about love by the minute. I’m sorry, but you can’t have your cake and eat it too. If you like someone enough to spend more than two days a week with them participating in more activities than casual sex, then consider having a conversation about the direction of your relationship because that can get ugly really quick. Honesty is key.
Disclaimer: Some women are actually crazy though. Tread carefully.
Women ARE crazy. It’s science.
I guess I should’ve said some of us are significantly less crazy than others.
Much more accurate.
This was great until you completely undermined it with the disclaimer.
That’s not what “humanist” means.
Yeah but what about when a girl asks you to do something that she knows you don’t want to do, but is only asking you to see if you’ll say yes to the question. Once you say “yes” you’re off the hook for doing what she asked and she never expected you to do what she asked in the first place? Dat shit cray.
Hmm. I just broke up with my girlfriend of two whole months because she knows she wants kids within 5 years and I don’t. So I figured I’d be doing her a favor by freeing her up to meet someone else instead of using her for sex for a while then dumping her when I was no longer interested. I figured she’d be grateful… but instead she is pissed at me and called me a misogynist who thinks he knows best. I guess some women just don’t want to hear the truth.
Well that’s dumb on her part. You did the right thing!
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Are you crazy, lady?
The irony of this article being published directly after the GO Daddy piece is not lost on me.
So down to stay in and waste a night watching TV.
“I don’t feel that women are constantly oppressed. I don’t hate males. In fact, I love them.”
^I’d just like to point out that feminism is not about “hating men.” That’s a common misconception and completely inaccurate. Feminists don’t hate men; they may hate being objectified by men and facing gender inequalities in the office, etc.
I feel bad that you thought you had to preface your article with an excuse like that as a justification for writing a “feminist” article, even though it’s a pretty common statement: Women shouldn’t be called crazy for having emotions, and guys shouldn’t be called weak if they show their emotions. Just saying.