Let me preface this article with this: I’m not overly-feminist. I don’t feel that women are constantly oppressed. I don’t hate males. In fact, I love them. I consider myself a humanist. But I have noticed a trend of injustice that particularly applies to women. When we are being courted by a gentleman caller and start to develop any feelings, we are immediately labeled as being “crazy.” That just isn’t fair.
Dudes, this needs to stop.
Women, we aren’t necessarily innocent either. We are starting to confuse random acts of kindness and general friendliness with flirting and “coming on” attempts. But I’ll save that for another discussion.
As women, we are cursed with these shitty things called emotions. We feel things. When someone takes an interest in us, takes us to dinner, brings us on dates, tells us we’re pretty and generally acts like they give a damn, we reciprocate. Maybe we’re a little more upfront and honest about what we’re feeling, but we need to get it out there to make sure we don’t get screwed over. Unfortunately, the latter is the trend these days.
Dating isn’t cool. Monogamy is for pussies these days. Committing yourself to one person is frowned upon, and that’s kind of sad. I’m no prude, but I’m more of a quality over quantity kind of girl. For that reason, I abstain from causal sex and try not to get involved with people who I get bad vibes from. But even my extreme meticulous dating restrictions haven’t prevented me from being referred to as “crazy.”
We aren’t crazy.
Crazy is a girl texting you more than 20 times in a single day and showing up at your house knocking on the door and hysterically crying after just a couple of dates. That would be terrifying. That is crazy.
Crazy is NOT hanging out with a girl for a few weeks, taking her on dates, hooking up a few times and then she asks you if you can be exclusive. It might not be what you’re into, but that doesn’t make her crazy.
Women usually want the same things guys do: the occasional date to make us feel like you’re not just using us for sex, a night in watching TV and pigging out every once in a while, relatively-constant sex and a genuine compliment from time to time. But if you’re not into that, BE HONEST. Tell us. I guarantee that almost every woman out there would rather you be honest than avoiding the situation and ignoring her. That’s some college-aged shit none of us have time for.
The ambiguous quasi-dating trend these days is making us more and more cynical about love by the minute. I’m sorry, but you can’t have your cake and eat it too. If you like someone enough to spend more than two days a week with them participating in more activities than casual sex, then consider having a conversation about the direction of your relationship because that can get ugly really quick. Honesty is key.
Disclaimer: Some women are actually crazy though. Tread carefully.